Wednesday, May 10, 2006
Bad Friends
Dear Guidance Guy,
My friends are doing really bad things. I don't hang out with them but I
don't know what to do. They're just getting worse and worse. I
always get in trouble and I know no teacher that yells at me all the
time would want to sit down and talk to me about making the right
choices. I get good grades when I am getting in trouble, then when I
HAVE to stop getting in trouble my grades go down. My parents don't know about me getting in trouble, and I don't want them to know. I just feel that no teacher at all will help anything. I know that I don't give them
respect but I really dont like them. What should I do?
Bad Friends
*****
Dear Bad Friends,
Your letter was confusing because you were saying a bunch of different things. So let's sort them out one at a time...
If you don't hang out with your bad friends, who do you hang out with? It seems like this would be a good time to find some new friends. Is there an after school activity you could join, or an organization you could go to that has people that would be better for you? You would be surprised: most teachers WOULD sit down and talk with you about making better choices. It's all about the timing. Ask to meet with them when classes aren't going on and you're not in trouble. If you have a guidance counselor or assistant principal, they might be willing to meet with you also. As long as it's not a time when you're in trouble, most teachers will talk to you with respect. Just figure out what you want to ask them first, then ask!
The trouble you get into couldn't be too bad, or your parents would know already. Teachers are the same as everyone else. They want to be treated fairly. When they aren't, sometimes they get out of line (same as students). Like I said, see if you can talk to them when no one is mad at anyone else. You will probably find they are decent people who really want you to do well.
Hope That Helps,
The Guidance Guy
My friends are doing really bad things. I don't hang out with them but I
don't know what to do. They're just getting worse and worse. I
always get in trouble and I know no teacher that yells at me all the
time would want to sit down and talk to me about making the right
choices. I get good grades when I am getting in trouble, then when I
HAVE to stop getting in trouble my grades go down. My parents don't know about me getting in trouble, and I don't want them to know. I just feel that no teacher at all will help anything. I know that I don't give them
respect but I really dont like them. What should I do?
Bad Friends
*****
Dear Bad Friends,
Your letter was confusing because you were saying a bunch of different things. So let's sort them out one at a time...
If you don't hang out with your bad friends, who do you hang out with? It seems like this would be a good time to find some new friends. Is there an after school activity you could join, or an organization you could go to that has people that would be better for you? You would be surprised: most teachers WOULD sit down and talk with you about making better choices. It's all about the timing. Ask to meet with them when classes aren't going on and you're not in trouble. If you have a guidance counselor or assistant principal, they might be willing to meet with you also. As long as it's not a time when you're in trouble, most teachers will talk to you with respect. Just figure out what you want to ask them first, then ask!
The trouble you get into couldn't be too bad, or your parents would know already. Teachers are the same as everyone else. They want to be treated fairly. When they aren't, sometimes they get out of line (same as students). Like I said, see if you can talk to them when no one is mad at anyone else. You will probably find they are decent people who really want you to do well.
Hope That Helps,
The Guidance Guy
