Thursday, March 23, 2006
Confusing Guy, Confused Girl
Dear Guidance Guy,
I went out with this boy, about three different times: once last year, once at the beginning of this year and again after that. We broke up , he has done some CRAZY stuff to me. I gave him TWO chances! Anyway, he likes me still, and he has asked me out. I for some reason kind of like him still, and so, I'm not going back out with him. But he went out with another girl once, and I don't know if I was jealous or not. I acted mad at him, but I know I really wasn't. I just don't understand.
And now my friend and I three wayed him and I told him how I felt. That made me feel good. He said I have no reason to be mad at him just because he likes a girl, and I knew that. I just don't know what to do!! I hate this! I said the only way I'll feel better is if he has a girlfriend he is happy with and I have a boyfriend I'm happy with. I like two people I but I don't think either of them like me. He is the only one that likes me that I like back, but my Dad and my brother are WAY too protective. It stinks! What should I do with my feelings?
Signed,
Ahhh
*****
Dear Ahhh,
It looks to me like the problem is you aren't happy and secure enough with yourself at the moment, and that's causing you to rely on someone else's feelings about you. Don't be upset with me for saying that...it's very common among young men and women. It's something we all go through and (most of us) grow out of.
Right now it looks like you want a boyfriend BADLY and are willing to put your own self-respect aside in order to get one. The fact that he did crazy stuff to you (whatever that was) should have been the first warning you needed that he isn't a guy you need in your life. The fact that you're acting angry at him even though you aren't means you care too much about what he thinks of you. And the fact that you had your friend on the phone with you while you were talking about personal stuff also tells me you're not ready for a serious relationship at the moment.
Like I said, you haven't done anything wrong. I just don't think this is the right time for any relationship. It's interesting that you say the only way you'll feel better is each of you has a new person. I would like to see you get to the point where you're happy with yourself, whether there's someone else with you or not.
Make sure you get this...when you feel badly about yourself, I GUARANTEE the wrong guys will show up...and you'll fall for them. The good news is that when you feel good about yourself - with or without a guy - the right guys will magically appear! Don't take my word for it...see for yourself!
All The Best,
The Guidance Guy
I went out with this boy, about three different times: once last year, once at the beginning of this year and again after that. We broke up , he has done some CRAZY stuff to me. I gave him TWO chances! Anyway, he likes me still, and he has asked me out. I for some reason kind of like him still, and so, I'm not going back out with him. But he went out with another girl once, and I don't know if I was jealous or not. I acted mad at him, but I know I really wasn't. I just don't understand.
And now my friend and I three wayed him and I told him how I felt. That made me feel good. He said I have no reason to be mad at him just because he likes a girl, and I knew that. I just don't know what to do!! I hate this! I said the only way I'll feel better is if he has a girlfriend he is happy with and I have a boyfriend I'm happy with. I like two people I but I don't think either of them like me. He is the only one that likes me that I like back, but my Dad and my brother are WAY too protective. It stinks! What should I do with my feelings?
Signed,
Ahhh
*****
Dear Ahhh,
It looks to me like the problem is you aren't happy and secure enough with yourself at the moment, and that's causing you to rely on someone else's feelings about you. Don't be upset with me for saying that...it's very common among young men and women. It's something we all go through and (most of us) grow out of.
Right now it looks like you want a boyfriend BADLY and are willing to put your own self-respect aside in order to get one. The fact that he did crazy stuff to you (whatever that was) should have been the first warning you needed that he isn't a guy you need in your life. The fact that you're acting angry at him even though you aren't means you care too much about what he thinks of you. And the fact that you had your friend on the phone with you while you were talking about personal stuff also tells me you're not ready for a serious relationship at the moment.
Like I said, you haven't done anything wrong. I just don't think this is the right time for any relationship. It's interesting that you say the only way you'll feel better is each of you has a new person. I would like to see you get to the point where you're happy with yourself, whether there's someone else with you or not.
Make sure you get this...when you feel badly about yourself, I GUARANTEE the wrong guys will show up...and you'll fall for them. The good news is that when you feel good about yourself - with or without a guy - the right guys will magically appear! Don't take my word for it...see for yourself!
All The Best,
The Guidance Guy
