Sunday, February 12, 2006
Does He Like Me?
Dear Guidance Guy,
I like this guy in my class, and we're good friends. However, I kind of have some feelings for him...and I'm not sure if he feels the same way. I see him looking at me once in a while and when I talk to him. but when he's around his friends, I'm like invisible to him! He's really dense also. I've been dropping hints the whole time and he just doesn't *get* it. (or is he getting it, but he's just really good at hiding his feelings?) My friend asked him if he likes me and he's like, "No." she asked, "are you sure?" and he's like, "Yeah, I swear..."
He talks to other girls, and he's the guy that everyone can hang with. How can I fit in the picture? My friend said she catches him staring at me sometimes, and my other friend said she saw him looking at me differently...just differently. But does that really mean anything? Does he like me?
I really don't mind telling him, it's just that it's his friends who I'm scared about. He's really close to them and tells them almost everything and if he told them that I like him...I'll be the laughing stock of his friend's jokes! Because I hang out with his friends too, I don't want this happening!
Signed,
iADOREhim
*****
Dear Adore,
I want to say this to you gently, because you seem like a very nice young lady. What's happening with you doesn't sound like a lot of fun. It seems like you are involved with someone who isn't interested in you the way you are in him.
How did your friend get involved in asking if he likes you? Asking a friend if he likes you is not a good way to start any relationship. It makes you look insecure, which is not an attractive feature. And if you are always worrying about what his friends think of you, how can you enjoy your time with him?
My advice is to move away from this situation for a while and think about what makes you special. I'm sure there are a lot of great things about you. Once you figure out how great you are, you won't worry about a guy who (sorry about this) seems not to be interested in you. Once you move past that, the right guy will show up - at the right time.
All The Best,
The Guidance Guy
I like this guy in my class, and we're good friends. However, I kind of have some feelings for him...and I'm not sure if he feels the same way. I see him looking at me once in a while and when I talk to him. but when he's around his friends, I'm like invisible to him! He's really dense also. I've been dropping hints the whole time and he just doesn't *get* it. (or is he getting it, but he's just really good at hiding his feelings?) My friend asked him if he likes me and he's like, "No." she asked, "are you sure?" and he's like, "Yeah, I swear..."
He talks to other girls, and he's the guy that everyone can hang with. How can I fit in the picture? My friend said she catches him staring at me sometimes, and my other friend said she saw him looking at me differently...just differently. But does that really mean anything? Does he like me?
I really don't mind telling him, it's just that it's his friends who I'm scared about. He's really close to them and tells them almost everything and if he told them that I like him...I'll be the laughing stock of his friend's jokes! Because I hang out with his friends too, I don't want this happening!
Signed,
iADOREhim
*****
Dear Adore,
I want to say this to you gently, because you seem like a very nice young lady. What's happening with you doesn't sound like a lot of fun. It seems like you are involved with someone who isn't interested in you the way you are in him.
How did your friend get involved in asking if he likes you? Asking a friend if he likes you is not a good way to start any relationship. It makes you look insecure, which is not an attractive feature. And if you are always worrying about what his friends think of you, how can you enjoy your time with him?
My advice is to move away from this situation for a while and think about what makes you special. I'm sure there are a lot of great things about you. Once you figure out how great you are, you won't worry about a guy who (sorry about this) seems not to be interested in you. Once you move past that, the right guy will show up - at the right time.
All The Best,
The Guidance Guy
