Tuesday, February 21, 2006
Dating Mistake
Dear Guidance Guy,
I'm really sad. There's this boy whom I reallly like and it is almost Sadie Hawkins night. My friends asked him for me and he said yes.But when I called him and stuff he said he remembered that he couldn't come because he said he has promised his Dad's band that he would play with them for a long time and it was on the night of the dance. If he didn't want to come with me he shouldn't have said yes in the first place. He made me really
happy and then gave me the news too late. It made me heart broken. I cried the whole night. I'm so mad that I don't want to talk to him or look at him ever again. What do I do? I need advice how do I know if he really did have to go play with the band or if he is telling the truth.
What do you think I should do? This is the first time I ever asked anyone out so I'm really sad because usually they ask me. How come when you like someone they don't like you and when someone likes you you don't like them. Life's so unfair.
Broken Hearted
*****
Dear Broken Hearted,
Time for some tough love, girl. What made you think it was a good idea to have your friends ask him out for you? The minute that happened you set yourself up as someone not to be taken seriously. What stopped you from asking him out yourself? Making up an excuse (if that's what he did) wasn't the coolest thing to do. But when you had someone else ask him out for you, you should have expected he would be uncomfortable.
But that's the situation you have now. My opinion is that your relationship with this guy doesn't exist, and it won't exist until you've grown up some more. Spend some time getting comfortable with yourself. Go to the dance with friends, or spend the evening at the movies or some other place. Don't worry about romance for now. Concentrate on just being happy with yourself and finding the best way to communicate with other people.
As for your last comment, when you become happier with yourself, you become more attractive to other people. Life isn't unfair this way...it's completely fair. Once you understand this rule, you can make it work for you, not against you.
All The Best,
The Guidance Guy
I'm really sad. There's this boy whom I reallly like and it is almost Sadie Hawkins night. My friends asked him for me and he said yes.But when I called him and stuff he said he remembered that he couldn't come because he said he has promised his Dad's band that he would play with them for a long time and it was on the night of the dance. If he didn't want to come with me he shouldn't have said yes in the first place. He made me really
happy and then gave me the news too late. It made me heart broken. I cried the whole night. I'm so mad that I don't want to talk to him or look at him ever again. What do I do? I need advice how do I know if he really did have to go play with the band or if he is telling the truth.
What do you think I should do? This is the first time I ever asked anyone out so I'm really sad because usually they ask me. How come when you like someone they don't like you and when someone likes you you don't like them. Life's so unfair.
Broken Hearted
*****
Dear Broken Hearted,
Time for some tough love, girl. What made you think it was a good idea to have your friends ask him out for you? The minute that happened you set yourself up as someone not to be taken seriously. What stopped you from asking him out yourself? Making up an excuse (if that's what he did) wasn't the coolest thing to do. But when you had someone else ask him out for you, you should have expected he would be uncomfortable.
But that's the situation you have now. My opinion is that your relationship with this guy doesn't exist, and it won't exist until you've grown up some more. Spend some time getting comfortable with yourself. Go to the dance with friends, or spend the evening at the movies or some other place. Don't worry about romance for now. Concentrate on just being happy with yourself and finding the best way to communicate with other people.
As for your last comment, when you become happier with yourself, you become more attractive to other people. Life isn't unfair this way...it's completely fair. Once you understand this rule, you can make it work for you, not against you.
All The Best,
The Guidance Guy
