Thursday, December 15, 2005
Perverted Adult?
Dear Guidance Guy,
How do you handle a teacher that is absolutely perverted?
Confused
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Dear Confused,
Wow! I wish you had given me a little more detail. It depends on what you mean by perverted. The quick answer is...you don't handle that kind of teacher. You get other people to do it for you...your parents for starters.
Again, you didn't say what makes this teacher absolutely perverted. I wonder what makes you think this. Some adults send mixed signals - in other words, you're not quite sure if they are being inappropriate, but you know something doesn't feel quite right. With others, it's obvious. They touch or do other things in ways that leave no doubt.
But one thing is sure. If you don't feel good about the way you're being dealt with, or if a friend doesn't, talk with an adult you respect. Adults who are "perverted" with kids can be very good at making them feel like they shouldn't say anything, or that it's their fault if something sexual happens between them. It's not the kids' fault. And they shouldn't feel guilty. Adults like this know how to manipulate kids to get them to do things they don't want to do.
So again, the best way to handle "perverted" teachers is to talk with adults you trust about what's going on.
Thanks for an important letter,
The Guidance Guy
How do you handle a teacher that is absolutely perverted?
Confused
*****
Dear Confused,
Wow! I wish you had given me a little more detail. It depends on what you mean by perverted. The quick answer is...you don't handle that kind of teacher. You get other people to do it for you...your parents for starters.
Again, you didn't say what makes this teacher absolutely perverted. I wonder what makes you think this. Some adults send mixed signals - in other words, you're not quite sure if they are being inappropriate, but you know something doesn't feel quite right. With others, it's obvious. They touch or do other things in ways that leave no doubt.
But one thing is sure. If you don't feel good about the way you're being dealt with, or if a friend doesn't, talk with an adult you respect. Adults who are "perverted" with kids can be very good at making them feel like they shouldn't say anything, or that it's their fault if something sexual happens between them. It's not the kids' fault. And they shouldn't feel guilty. Adults like this know how to manipulate kids to get them to do things they don't want to do.
So again, the best way to handle "perverted" teachers is to talk with adults you trust about what's going on.
Thanks for an important letter,
The Guidance Guy
