Saturday, December 31, 2005
The Gateway Goal.
Until you decide upon a "Gateway Goal" all of the ambitions you have for yourself won't come true.
New Year's Resolution time comes, and what do many of us do? We sit down and write out our laundry list of things to get done in the coming year.
There's some statistic somewhere that says 95% of all resolutions don't become reality. I'd guess that number is closer to 99%, but I'll go with the smaller number.
Why is this the case? Is it because the people who make the resolutions weren't serious in the first place? Possibly.
Is it because they overextended their ability to make change in their lives. Could be that as well.
I think there's one main reason why people don't live up to the goals they set for themselves; new year's resolutions or otherwise.
The reason? They don't hit the underlying problems that cause them to have the need for change in the first place.
Let's use a typical example. Someone I do personal coaching with wants to expand his weight loss business. So far, so good.
He's established that as a goal for the coming year. It's a great goal, and he sees the benefits of a growing business.
What does it take to build this kind of business? Lots of things: patience, persistence, a good marketing plan, good follow through...etc.
Now, what does it REALLY take to build this kind of business? A belief that what you market - in this case, nutrition and weight loss products - is really worth the money you're asking people to pay for it.
Here was the crisis for this gentleman. He didn't believe in what he was doing all the way because he wasn't getting results from his products.
And he wasn't getting results because he wasn't using them correctly.
Dig a little deeper. He wasn't using them correctly because he didn't see himself as WORTHY.
He didn't have the belief in himself, which carried over to everything else he tried to do.
So we stepped back and created a "Gateway Goal." This was the goal that would enable all of his other goals to become possible.
We set the goal of improved self-esteem, and layed out specific steps to make this happen, with little successes built in along the way.
It starts with the infrastructure for success. That infrastructure is ALWAYS internal. The external creation is outside of yourself. It could be the coolest, hottest, most outrageous thing.
But you won't access it until you access the power inside yourself.
Until he feels personally confident and personally empowered to go out and make the changes in HIMSELF...none of the other stuff can possibly happen.
And once that happens, look out! He'll be unstoppable!
What goals are you thinking about for yourself?
Are you truly in a position where you can make these things come true? Or do you need to step back and work on a few things within yourself first?
Take some time and come up with a "Gateway Goal." Work on that first, then watch some real magic occur in your life.
New Year's Resolution time comes, and what do many of us do? We sit down and write out our laundry list of things to get done in the coming year.
There's some statistic somewhere that says 95% of all resolutions don't become reality. I'd guess that number is closer to 99%, but I'll go with the smaller number.
Why is this the case? Is it because the people who make the resolutions weren't serious in the first place? Possibly.
Is it because they overextended their ability to make change in their lives. Could be that as well.
I think there's one main reason why people don't live up to the goals they set for themselves; new year's resolutions or otherwise.
The reason? They don't hit the underlying problems that cause them to have the need for change in the first place.
Let's use a typical example. Someone I do personal coaching with wants to expand his weight loss business. So far, so good.
He's established that as a goal for the coming year. It's a great goal, and he sees the benefits of a growing business.
What does it take to build this kind of business? Lots of things: patience, persistence, a good marketing plan, good follow through...etc.
Now, what does it REALLY take to build this kind of business? A belief that what you market - in this case, nutrition and weight loss products - is really worth the money you're asking people to pay for it.
Here was the crisis for this gentleman. He didn't believe in what he was doing all the way because he wasn't getting results from his products.
And he wasn't getting results because he wasn't using them correctly.
Dig a little deeper. He wasn't using them correctly because he didn't see himself as WORTHY.
He didn't have the belief in himself, which carried over to everything else he tried to do.
So we stepped back and created a "Gateway Goal." This was the goal that would enable all of his other goals to become possible.
We set the goal of improved self-esteem, and layed out specific steps to make this happen, with little successes built in along the way.
It starts with the infrastructure for success. That infrastructure is ALWAYS internal. The external creation is outside of yourself. It could be the coolest, hottest, most outrageous thing.
But you won't access it until you access the power inside yourself.
Until he feels personally confident and personally empowered to go out and make the changes in HIMSELF...none of the other stuff can possibly happen.
And once that happens, look out! He'll be unstoppable!
What goals are you thinking about for yourself?
Are you truly in a position where you can make these things come true? Or do you need to step back and work on a few things within yourself first?
Take some time and come up with a "Gateway Goal." Work on that first, then watch some real magic occur in your life.
